6 Essential Oils for Sex: Boost Libido and Set the Mood Naturally

Essential oils to boost Libido

Enjoying a strong, vibrant sex drive is normal. Sadly, low, sluggish libido affects more people than you can imagine.  If you can relate to this, it's important to realize that sexual desire is the product of many factors and natural therapies like essential oils for sex can help boost libido like few things can!

In this article you will learn about:

  1. You're Not Alone
  2. Low Libido Causes
  3. 6 Oils to Get in the Mood
  4. Message of Hope

You're Not Alone

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Before we dive into the best essential oils for sex, the first thing to understand is that you are not alone. For men, low libido often culminates in erectile dysfunction, which ranges in prevalence from 5% in younger men to 25% in men over 65. (1) In women, low libido is common in all stages of life thanks to fluctuating hormones.

Having a low libido periodically or chronically is nothing to be ashamed of. Bringing your concerns into the open can start the path toward health, intimacy, and resolution.

Low Libido Causes

Causes of low libido vary from person to person and range from lifestyle influences to serious disorders. Some of the most prevalent factors include:

  • Stress – One of the most basic yet most difficult causes of low libido to fix, simply being stressed out and overtired can put a damper on the mood. Stress over relationship issues such as raising the kids, money, and house concerns, can lead to lack of intimacy and hinder libido as well. Most stress can be relieved with simple lifestyle changes. (2)
  • Alcohol – An often overlooked cause of sexual dysfunction, alcohol can be a stressor of its own. While contemporary advice says to utilize alcohol to just relax, it could have the opposite effect and ruin efforts toward libido increase.
  • Hormones – Here's where it gets complicated. The body's network of hormone responses create long-term messages for the body to respond to. So they aren't quick to fix. Hormones are connected to causes like stress, aging, disease, and menstrual, pregnancy, and menopause related libido issues. (3, 4) When hormones are at the root of libido issues, expect change to come progressively over time.
  • Illness – Physical stressors on the body – such as obesity, heart health, and other illness – can hinder sexual desire and response, as well. When an illness or condition is at the root of low libido, working with a doctor is important.

Check the resource list at the bottom of this article for more about low libido and its various causes. If you are one of the many who struggles with low libido in the face of stress and normal hormonal shifts, essential oils too boost libido may soon become your new best friend!

6 Essential Oils for Sex

6 Essential Oils for Sex

As gentle and relaxing aromas, these oils can be used in diffusions, sprays, topical applications and more. Get creative to see how you can boost libido by incorporating these essential oils for sex into both your daily life and romantic life.

1. Rose

As an anxiety-relieving, calming oil, it comes as no surprise that rose essential oil is also traditionally used as an aphrodisiac. As a pricey oil, though, rose is most efficiently used in blends or heavy dilutions.

Application: Blend into a perfume to carry this romantic floral scent with you, or diffuse periodically throughout the day for both partners to enjoy.

2. Jasmine

A precious and pricey oil derived from delicate flower petals, jasmine has proven itself well in studies. Researchers tested alertness and “behavioral arousal” after a topical treatment of jasmine oil. Of course, the participants were found to be more refreshed, with their senses on alert. (5)

Application: Apply jasmine topically in a perfume or sensual massage oil for men and women. Note that the delicate petals sometimes require the use of a solvent to extract the oil. Check labels carefully, especially for an organic certification.

3. Clary Sage

A 2014 study undertook the question of menopause symptom relief and essential oils. The found that simply inhaling hormone-balancing clary sage essential oil had an anti-depressant effect on menopausal women. (6) When libido is low due to hormonal shifts like menopause, clary sage is a balancer that may bring some relief.

Application: Diffuse or inhale periodically to relax, balance hormones, and get in the mood.

4. Ylang Ylang

Ylang ylang is widely used as an aphrodisiac throughout the aromatherapy world. Its gentle floral scent is appealing to nearly everyone, and its application potential is diverse. Enjoy with other floral oils or deepen the fragrance with sandalwood.

Application: Diffusion, inhalation, or diluted into a carrier oil as a massage oil for both men and women.

5. Neroli

Essential oil derived from orange blossoms instead of the fruit's peel is called neroli, a precious and very useful oil. In one clinical trial, researchers found that “inhalation of neroli oil helps relieve menopausal symptoms, increase sexual desire, and reduce blood pressure in postmenopausal women,” making it another helpful option when libido is low due to hormones or stress. (7)

Application: Diffusion or inhalation a couple of times each day for calming, balancing effects.

6. Fennel

As a whole herb, “Fennel seeds have been reputed to increase milk secretion, promote menstruation, facilitate birth and alleviate the symptoms of the female climacteric, increase libido and alleviation of the dysmenorrheal symptoms.” (8) Fennel essential oil retains some of these estrogenic effects, making it a beneficial addition to your libido-increasing, hormone-balancing diffusion or massage blends.

Application: Include fennel essential oil in DIY lotion blends or massage oils for balancing effects.

Message of Hope

Men and women of all ages have faced low libido and have found hope and renewal. There is no shame in admitting the struggle and seeking a solution! As a bonus, openness and partnership in finding a remedy or resolution as a couple will help to increase intimacy, as well.

To relieve the stresses of every day life, boost libido and begin to ignite a spark with your significant other, try this DIY libido boosting blend diffused or diluted into a carrier oil (almond or coconut are excellent!) for a soothing massage. Simply blend:

  • 2 drops neroli (or sweet orange)
  • 2 drops jasmine
  • 2 drops ylang ylang

Directly into a diffuser (or inhaler, with one drop each).

For topical application, ylang ylang, clary sage, rose and jasmine are go-to oils that are known to be very safe and, when highly diluted (1% – 3 drops of EO blend per tablespoon of the carrier oil of your choice), can be a pleasant body massage oil or even lubricant.

Safety & Contraindications

Are you sure you're using essential oils safely and effectively? Are you confused by dilutions and conversions?

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Essential Oil Roller Bottle Dilution Guide

When it comes to drug interactions and contraindications, there are literally textbooks devoted to the study of essential oil safety and, as a trained researcher and doctor, I think it’s important to note that there is virtually no research out there discussing how essential oils interact with drugs in human clinical trials. This means that essential oil safety is still a wild frontier in the science community and no one really knows (for certain) how essential oils will interact with drugs or your body.

Nonetheless, properly diluting your essential oils is fundamental to safety and effectiveness because they are highly concentrated plant compounds. To help you along your journey, I have a created an easy-to-use dilution guide that you can download for FREE to make sure that all of your topical applications are safe and effective for the entire family. 

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As with as medicine and natural therapies, this is only a guide and be sure to discontinue use if any adverse reactions occur and consult your physician immediately.


  1. http://www.webmd.com/erectile-dysfunction/guide/erectile-dysfunction-basics
  2. http://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/features/loss-of-libido-in-men?page=2
  3. http://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/low-testosterone-8/low-sex-drive?page=2
  4. http://www.webmd.com/menopause/guide/menopause-sexual-problems?page=2
  5. http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/20184043
  6. http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/24802524
  7. http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/25024731
  8. http://journaldatabase.info/download/pdf/evaluation_prophylactic_effect_fennel

This post currently has 25 comments.

  1. kenya
    August 27, 2017

    I prefer to print items I find an keep them for reference versus having to find again. it appears I am not allowed to print yours- am I missing something?

    • Dr. Z
      September 9, 2017

      Hi Kenya, you can copy and paste these articles on a MS Word document and print out. 🙂

  2. Chuck
    April 20, 2017

    Just a note of precaution. Just because it is recommended to add an oil for massage, that does not mean the once safe oil can still be comfortably used as a sex lube. I will not repeat the string of four letter words that resulted from this bedroom blooper.

    • Dr. Z
      April 23, 2017

      Oh, for sure! Good point. There are, however, a number of essential oils that can be used (highly diluted) to help promote healthy sexual performance.

  3. Carol
    March 11, 2017

    What about for MEN???? What can we use to help them?…

    • Dr. Z
      March 11, 2017

      Hey Carol, these aren’t all gender-specific recommendations. All of them apply to both men & women.

      If a man doesn’t want to smell like ylang ylang, rose or jasmine, then she can wear them as a perfume to stimulate his libido. Diffuse these into the air in the bedroom and spray a spritzer onto the sheets.

      Makes me think of the 7th chapter Proverb in the Bible…

      16 I have covered my bed
      with colored linens from Egypt.
      17 I have perfumed my bed
      with myrrh, aloes and cinnamon.
      18 Come, let’s drink deeply of love till morning;
      let’s enjoy ourselves with love!

      • Raquel
        June 14, 2017

        This message encourages me. Thank you for sharing that biblical reference. ❤️

        • Dr. Z
          June 19, 2017


  4. Sharon boyd
    February 20, 2016

    Hi i pushed the link for 4 oils for ageless skin and keep getting libo ?????

  5. Shirley Fwati
    February 14, 2016

    Where do I get these essential oils?

    • Dr. Z
      February 16, 2016

      Hi Shirley,

      If you are inquiring about essential oil brand recommendations please note that the information published on my website is for educational purposes only, and I do not sell supplements & essential oils. To ensure that I can continue to provide unbiased, evidence-based material I must remain “brand neutral,” and I cannot recommend specific companies to purchase products from. I trust that you understand. 🙂

      With that said, there are several quality, therapeutic grade brands out there. Here’s what I do:

      Ask the company that you’re interested in for a report of their sourcing and quality standards. (indigenously sourced, sustainable, organic, non-gmo, etc..)
      Check online for some positive and negative reports – be careful to not let MLM propaganda get in the way of truth. (EVERYONE’s brand is the best, right? Especially, when they’re selling something).
      Contact the company and see if their grade is safe for internal use.
      Try a couple, and test for yourself.
      Lemon, lavender and peppermint are common and relatively inexpensive and you should get a good gauge to see if this brand is for you or not.
      Remember, many of these companies get their oils from the same supplier. They just private label them.

      • Shirley Fwati
        February 20, 2016

        Thank you so much Dr.Z, I appreciate your honesty and advice. it does make sense and I understand.

        • Dr. Z
          February 20, 2016

          You’re welcome. Thank you for taking the time to write a comment. 🙂

        • Jennifer Cross Gregory
          January 28, 2017

          Thank you for your integrity Dr. Z. I have been reading alot about essential oils and have noticed that many resources on the internet promote certain brands. It is a testimony to your genuine desire for others to obtain health in body and spirit

      • bill
        February 21, 2016

        Appreciate your answer. My wife sells EO’s for a good quality MLM company but is annoyed that their constantly pushing that no one elses is good enough, but the price is more than some can afford so she sells them for what she gets them for. Shes hesitated to sell other companies EO’s ..Til now. Thanks

      • Josie
        July 28, 2017

        What wise counsel I feel the same way..my friend I always saying hers is the best in the world ..When this man claiming ..Country of Canada research could not find proof of this man testimonial..Josie

      • kenya
        August 27, 2017

        people must however understand the value in pure oils if using for therapeutic purpose. My daughter has epilepsy and she cannot be exposed to spike lavender from researching countless webisites on this. Many of the cheap, in store brands are known to introduce spike lavender into their oils (becasue its cheaper and easier to grow) and brand as “therapeutic grade lavender” simply because it smells like lavender. Its actually quite scary to think what they could be putting in their bottles- I actually wish the FDA was involved. But we will never see that happen

        • Dr. Z
          September 9, 2017

          Hi Kenya,

          I appreciate that you’re a researcher, but be careful.

          Note on Seizures

          This is tough one for me to figure out because there’s virtually no research on this in the last 20 years and the only couple articles that I can find are case studies. Nonetheless virtually every blog that I see on the topic state a list of EOs that are contraindicated for epileptics and people prone to seizures.

          According to Aromatherapist Lauren Bridges, a mother of an epileptic child, this issue has become convoluted by myths and jumping to conclusions prematurely.

          “Long story short, a lot of the seizure lists floating around the internet are not accurate nor real pictures of the risks and threats. None of them seemingly account for species or chemotype, which makes a difference in this matter. As far as a list of oils with convulsant properties, I would check essential oils safety expert Robert Tisserand’s work, but with the understanding that this list can no way give a complete risk profile because of the nature of epilepsy an other seizure disorders.”

          If these are areas of concern for you, please contact your physician before using EOs.

  6. Christina Kimball
    February 13, 2016

    Is wild orange the same as sweet orange?

    • Andrea
      February 23, 2017

      Yes 🙂 they are.

    • Judy
      July 1, 2017

      I don’t know that they are the same. Wild orange may be from the peel and sweet orange from the blossom. I would check the sourcing. May depend on the label

  7. Kathy
    February 13, 2016

    I listen to all your letters you send Dr. Z., , sometimes i want to go to school for this.(Oils and Aromatherapy) What type of schooling is this called? Do you have to be a doctor? My Question: Because High Blood can cause an inability to be aroused enough to have an erection, (or maybe the medicine causes it). What can a person do… He even refuses to try anything anymore.. Does that lead into total Erectile dysfunction then? Or is there a medicines that are not as hard on a mans ability of functioning? I have not known him long, but his job is stressful, and he does not eat well… Kind of a hard position.. Do You have any advice on this?
    Thank You Dr. Z.

  8. Steve
    February 13, 2016

    As a full mustached man…I love using it as a diffuser, it works great. Are there any precautions I should be aware of in doing this?


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